My family voted for Trump, pass the turkey
There’s no place like home for the holidays—unless you find yourself stuck in the same familial conundrum I’m in. My family members voted for Donald Trump, so there’s a long list of places that sound a lot more appealing than home right now.
You know what they say, nothing spoils a Thanksgiving meal like a presidential pussy-grabber. With the holiday season upon us, how does one handle coming home to a Trump-supporting family?
“F— ’em. You’re an orphan now. Don’t go home. Don’t go home for Thanksgiving or Christmas. Don’t talk to them at all. Silence speaks volumes,” advised actor Michael Shannon.
If only it was that simple. All November I grappled with the decision of whether or not to board a plane home for Thanksgiving Break. Eventually, I caved. I went home. I ate turkey. I watched movies. I made small talk with my Trump-supporting relatives as if nothing had changed because, in a way, nothing had. Life moved on unaltered for my family and me after Nov. 8 simply because our middle-class, white privilege allowed it to.
My situation isn’t unique. Many people will undoubtedly ignore the enormous elephant—and donkey—in the room this holiday out of convenience. You should be able to have an open and honest conversation about hard topics with the people you love. Avoiding the discussion of politics with family is an antiquated taboo, and this year, brushing politics under the dinner table feels almost insidious. The silent majority that’s inconspicuous to polls elected Trump. For many white college kids like myself, complacently avoiding familial conflict helped enable his presidency. There’s plenty of blame to go around.
Life moved on unaltered for my family and I after November 8th simply because our middle-class, white privilege allowed it to.
“Family should be more important than political views,” my mother texted me the morning after the election in defense of her vote for Trump.
She’s right. Family should outweigh any political dispute; however, a line must be drawn somewhere. If a political view imposes on personal liberties, it’s no longer “politics as usual.” It’s become far more personal. Trump’s offensive comments toward women, people of color and immigrants have morphed this debate into a matter of morality rather than politics. Disagreeing with family members during this election implies disagreeing on the fundamental principles of equality.
That’s something a little tougher to swallow at the Thanksgiving table this year.