I haven’t bothered making a New Year’s resolution for years. Even if this whole shindig doesn’t work, hopefully it will help you reflect on how you want to change your life, too (high goals)—or just how much more together your life is than mine. Additionally, if I don’t put time into my hazy resolutions, then the fact that they could live forever online is really embarrassing.
- Say no to more things.
While I have been better at realizing that I need to “schedule” blank spaces to do homework, see friends, and sleep, a large reason why I continue to struggle with this is because I’m very worried about being mediocre. I obsess over internships that I feel like I should be more qualified to get, and although I’ve let go more of my anxiety about the future, there’s still a nice little knot of it to get through.
Take away tip from the fact that I’ve struggled with this since college started: Brushing past the source of the problem and just trying to tackle the solution—not taking time to work on the “why” that’s perpetuating this issue—doesn’t cut it.
- Feel faith, don’t just acknowledge a higher power.
These past few weeks, I started going to church again. Getting some Scripture and singing worship songs that help put words to my feeling have been so invigorating. (I recommend the song Worn by Tenth Avenue North if you’re feeling overwhelmed right now.) For the first time in a while, I’m not just spinning my wheels, stuck in the rut of believing in God without feeling close to him. And I want to keep this traction going.
Take away tip from the fact that I am well aware I’m not a great Christian: Everyone has to start somewhere. Whether it’s concerning religion or something completely different, don’t let the shortcomings you perceive fade into a sense of acceptance if you want to change it.
- Focus on health, not size.
This summer, I was fortunate enough to have the time and encouragement to be able to run five miles, a huge accomplishment for me. Even though I haven’t had as much leisure time to do that now, I don’t want to slip back into the mindset of counting calories and pounds. For me, personally, that just makes me think about everything I’m not. What I want to do is find a habit that I can do during the school year to feel more in tune with my body again.
Take away tip from the fact that I am unwilling to spend money to buy healthier food: Budgeting is not a bad thing if you want to be able to eat more than pasta.
So that’s it. Three, ridiculously broad goals and reflections. It’s very much not what the SMART goals are. But it’s what I want to work on for this next year.